All in Perspective

Last night I was having a chat with a friend. We were both enjoying a good meal, a beer, a hot summers night. But we were both alone...

Now there is nothing wrong with being alone. I am a person who appreciates time when I can have my personal space. It gives me time to think, reflect, and just not have to care about others.

While visiting, we both came to the conclusion that it would have been nice to share the evening with another person, specifically someone of the opposite sex.

As both of us are single, we talked about if we were looking for someone, and how we go about doing that. I mentioned that I like to use the approach of waiting until they come to me. I am not going to go scouting Edmonton for a man. Instead, if I meet someone of interest I will wait for them to make a move or show interest, and then go from there.

This friend said that he was taking the same approach right now. He said he too was not having any luck. At this moment, I realized 2 things.

1. Women do not like to have to go find a man. We like to be pursued.

2. Men seem to have lost all confidence when it comes to even talking to a woman. Whether it be just friends, or more, men do not act upon instincts as much as they used to.

I know that for any woman confidence is a huge turn on. We like a man who is sure of who he is, can take action when needed, and can control a situation. However, I cannot recall the last time that I saw this.

Now I do not know why men have lost this. It could be from the cruel women who string men along, only to break their hearts. Or from women who use men just to get what they want, never to talk to them again. There are a million reasons for this.

All I want to know is when will a man show up in my life who is single and has some confidence?

Top 20 Romantic Cities in Canada

On the way to work this morning I heard a report that Edmonton ranked #8 in the most romantic cities in Canada. I was event more shocked to find out what city was #1! Take a look at the list. I find it very interesting that some of these cities ranked so high. I think what shocked me even more was that Montreal was not on the list... I thought it would be #1

The 20 city list:

1. Saskatoon, Saskatchewan

2. Calgary, Alberta

3. Victoria, British Columbia

4. Regina, Saskatchewan

(I think that possibly Agribition has something to do with this, although I wouldn't call what happens in Regina romantic...)

5. Guelph, Ontario

6. Kingston, Ontario

7. Kelowna, British Columbia

8. Edmonton, Alberta

9. Winnipeg, Manitoba

10. London, Ontario

11. Peterborough, Ontario

12. Ottawa, Ontario

13. Thunder Bay, Ontario

14. Abbotsford, British Columbia

15. Sudbury, Ontario

16. Halifax, Nova Scotia

17. Brantford, Ontario

18. Barrie, Ontario

19. St. John’s, Newfoundland and Labrador

20. Windsor, Ontario

Starbucks

Every time I go to Starbucks I always seem to get the same cup... well with the same saying anyways.

It is one of my favorites that I have ever gotten, so I thought that I would share it with all of you. Hope you enjoy it as much as I do.

The Way I See It #76
The irony of commitment is that it's deeply liberating- in work, in play, in love. The act frees you from the tyranny of your internal critic, from the fear that likes to dress itself up and parade around as rational hesitation. To commit is to remove your head as the barrier to your life.

Settling

Over the last few days I have come to the realization that everyone should... Settling is not necessary!

Although we all know this, we often find ourselves saying that this is good enough, or will do. However, I think that it is really discouraging to see people like this.

No matter if it is a relationship, a job, a house, or even an outfit, there is no reason why each of us do not deserve the very best that we can have.

This weekend I was reminded of that, and seen some areas in my life that I had settled on. I hope that this is a "wake-up call" for all of you, and that you make sure that you are getting the very best you can. Because all of us deserve it!

There is always tomorrow...

Bad as I like ye, it's worse without ye. ~Irish Proverb

This quote seemed very fitting for the day that I had today, and it made me think that you really have to take everything with a grain of salt.

I don't have a lot of information for you right now, but will for sure keep everyone posted. I have a feeling that their will be a lot to share either for the good or the bad in the next couple of weeks. And regardless will take all the support from my friends and family I can get.

To Be Treated Like a Queen

Over the last week or so, I have found myself catching up on season finales that I missed and watching some guilty pleasure TV. Majority of these shows had moments that made me think... I wish someone would do that for me, or that would be so amazing if that really happened.

The first of these moments came watching the season finale of Gossip Girl. Seeing Chuck (a male lead character) pull out all of the stops to make Blair's (lead female character that Chuck secretly loves) high school prom perfect made my heart melt. Although money is unlimited in their life, to have your flowers canceled because they would clash with her dress, have the dry cleaners destroy her prom dress, and have her dream dress since Jr high flown in from Paris for her to wear, and making her prom queen, even through their school does not have a prom queen regularly, we just some of the gestures that he did for her. He truly made her feel like a queen.

The second of these moments came last night watching the Bachelorette. One of the guys (don't remember his name) was an airline pilot. She was asking him how it was to always be on the move and if it was difficult to maintain relationships with a life like that. His answer was just about perfect. He said how would you feel about waking up in the morning with your bags packed and a note saying that you would be off somewhere that evening. You board the plane and wake up in Belgium to have Belgium waffles before heading back home.... This to made my heart melt.

I know that living your life like this everyday, would make the special and spontaneous moments not so special and spontaneous anymore. But it would be nice every once and a while. I hope that each of you get at least a few of these moments in your life, and get to experience them with someone special, whether it be a best friend, a significant other, or your husband of 50 years!

Thailand Rant

So there is something that has been bugging me since we got to Thailand, and I have really noticed it more and more since we have gotten to Chiang Mai. My issue is the amount of older men that come to Thailand to prey on young Thai girls...

I know that it is possible for two people from other countries to fall in love with one another, but my issue is much different then that. Every night you see men 30-60 that find young women 16-25 to "spend the night with"

Now I personally do not know what happens when they leave for the night together, but one can only imagine. I find this so degrading to women everywhere. I am a firm believer in women's rights, and women standing up for yourself and for each other.

However, this seems to be the way of life here. Men come, live cheap, eat cheap, and use these women as if they are cheap. It really has been bothering me. After exploring the town some more today, I find that it is not only just in the tourist areas, but everywhere.

Hopefully this issue can get some awareness, and some attention brought to what i think is a huge issue in this beautiful country.

1 Year and Counting

And so the milestone has come, or milestone for me anyways...

Today marks the day that my boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year. Although many people look as this as no big deal, this is a huge feat for me, as I have not been known to be a relationship person.

Prior to Stuart and I dating, 3 months was a long relationship for me, and by that 3 months I was so bored of you that I never wanted to see you again. Hence, why today is a milestone in my books!

Many friends, family, co-workers, etc. laugh at me saying that it is impossible to make a relationship like ours work, that it was doomed from the beginning, or that we just live to far apart to even bother. I like to think that we have proved those people wrong. Dont get me wrong it is hard, and even trying at times. But the good days far out weigh the difficult ones...

Hopefully today makes the first of many anniversary's for the two of us, and that all of you will be there along the way to help us celebrate!

Stuart & I at Lloyd Bulls sale in March